Decisions and Dilemmas

Oh my, it's been a while since I've posted. Since I was last on here it's been a tad crazy; I've been in hospital, crafted and begun to plan the wedding, as well getting back to everyday life and work after op. Over the next week or so I hope to update you on the crafting, but today I will begin to update you on wedding related bits.

When I started to think about planning a wedding I knew the 'ToDo' list would be long, but I had not realised that the more stressful list was entitled 'To Decide'...
when? where? colours & themes? numbers? how involved do I want to be creatively speaking? how traditional? how formal? (breathe...) what to include? what are the most important elements? how much input do my mum, sister, friends & in laws have? how much of a surprise do I want to create? how DIY am I prepared to go? ...?...?...?

Many of these will be influenced by the fact that I love to go the extra mile in detail to make an event rememberable. I want to create a day that reflects us and that I've poured my heart into - but at the same time I have a busy year with work so can't take too much on and will need support from people.

So I come to my first dilemma, how much of my plans do I share on here and my Facebook page before the event?
I want record the journey and have other creative peeps feed into my ideas, but I still want my friends and family to have many surprises on the day. Therefore I will share elements of detail, ideas from other places and drafts as I plan and then give you all the crafting detail after the day.

 Which brings me to the first and most obvious decisions- date and venues.

Snowy Lane

WHEN?

We are getting married in January 2013. When we sat down we realised we had two choices, January or end June/July, so we went for January so we weren't waiting too long before we are husband and wife. It also means Better Half had less time of hearing about wedding and being asked lots of questions on opinions he doesn't have.
The other big factor is that I have always (well since I was about 6) wanted a winter wedding and had so many beautiful ideas for our day, that just wouldn't work in other seasons; and non of them would work in a 'Christmas in July' quirky way.
Just to be awkward: I don't want snow, just a beautiful frosty day.

WHERE?

 We had three possible options for the church and early on had narrowed it down to 2, the village church where my parents live and Coventry Cathedral. Both are very beautiful and are very important to me and after some discussion we decided that the more intimate church would suit the type of day we wanted - with our friends and family being the focus of the celebrations, not the building, feeling close and involved as we exchange vows.

The village church c. 1800-1890

The other advantage of the village church (as well as being able to walk to the service) is that I can make lots of beautiful decorations that will compliment the space, rather than be lost. Tbh I have far too many ideas now and I run the risk of the beauty of the church being lost in my crafts (eek!)


For the reception venue we knew what we couldn't do and what style of establishment wasn't to our taste. 
Marquee was out of the question (even if we had chosen a summer wedding) as it would mean hiring a location and make it too expensive. We didn't want a venue that feels like a conference centre, nor a village hall. Even though we don't have a HUGE budget our parents are being generous and we have saved hard to fund this and therefore want something that would be special for us.
We are both history geeks, National Trust members & BH has a degree in medieval history - we wanted something that reflected our passion for beautiful old buildings, that suited the time of year and somewhere I could add my creative flair.

We dutifully looked around a handful of country house hotels, but non of them quite fitted what we were looking for:
x One was too small
x Another was removed from the list within 5 minutes, no effort had gone into the open day and the annoying photographer (with big white background and flash umbrella that went off very 30 seconds) was the last straw
? If we could take the beautiful main hall from one of the hotels and put it in the place of the 'purpose built' complex at the forth, then we would have the perfect setting for a summer wedding. x Alas we couldn't do that leaving us with a beautiful hall on the end of a beautiful shell of a house and landscaped gardens that was let down buy its fraying carpets, grubby walls and over conference friendly layout. Or a lovely, well maintained hotel which felt cosy with a sense of luxury, that was in keeping with the period and style of the house, but to accommodate our guests we would have to use the modern block stuck on the end of the garden which didn't fit in with the rest of the property, or our tastes.

St Mary's Guildhall

The venue we finally went for was St Mary's Guildhall Coventry a hidden gem in the centre of Coventry. One of the few remaining medieval civic builds still standing (tho significantly restored after WWII) in the country. A reasonably small venue, with only a small courtyard of outside space; it has beautiful stained glass windows, high carved and painted ceiling and stunning tapestries. It is near Coventry Cathedral, over the lane from the ruins which we will use for photographs and features a vaulted undercroft for drinks receptions etc.
I am so excited - sorry WE are so excited. The staff are lovely, the menus look fab and the building is stunning. There's lot of scope for creating decorations, but not the need to spend every waking hour making them, as all we need to do is compliment the space not create an atmosphere.

The next instalment should be back to crafting - the next item on the 'To Do' list is the Save the Dates, which means decisions about all the stationary.

TTFN ~ Kate xxx

*I know thing can and will won't turn out on the day as I had planned. I want to turn my vision into a reality and to know on the day I did all I could to make it special for us.